Crap, now I'm crying over this.
I've been keeping an eye on Salon, and today their article "Same-sex family values" just broke me up inside.
See, I'm bisexual. I haven't had a big coming-out; it's really not that big a deal to me, or so I like to pretend. I've known for some time now that I'm attracted to some women, but I also feel deeply drawn to some men.
And it hurts me. I imagine what it might be like to be married someday, and I have to imagine that I fall in love with a man. The laws of the United States and each individual state within the Union are unfair to anyone who tries to form a life with a lover of the same sex. It doesn't matter to anyone that I'm bi instead of lesbian -- if I marry a man, we get to file taxes as married, we can get health insurance through whoever employs one of us, and so forth, but if I marry a woman, we can't have a marriage liscense, I can't have full parental rights to any child of hers, nor she of mine.
It's bullshit, and it's legal. The rights I may have someday as a married woman are wholly determined by the genetalia of the person I end up wanting to spend the rest of my life with.
I live in a conservative little Midwestern town. I don't plan to publicly "come out" as bisexual. My own family doesn't know, and I don't want them to know. My mother firmly believes that God made marriage to be a union of man and wife, and --
--crap, more crying.
This isn't fair. Somebody agree with me: this isn't fair at all.
I meant it when I said I'd like to move to Canada eventually. If they legalize same-sex marriage nationwide, I'm there. It'll be bitter cold, something I've always hated; but oh, to love and be loved, without sacrificing my passions or my rights to fit in with unjust laws.
When it comes to same-sex marriage, America is trying to legislate morality. They are deliberately keeping a minority of the population from having the rights made available to the majority -- to the straights. Politicians are legislating their morality. Even my own mother believes that same-sex marriage should not be legalized, and her basis for this is her religion, her faith in God.
What the fuck ever happened to separation of Church and State?